SUPPORT / DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & RELATIONSHIP SAFETY

You deserve to feel safe.

Support for people of every gender, whether something is happening now or you are making sense of a past experience. You do not have to prove your experience or decide what to do today.

Call a trained advocate

Your safety comes first.

If you are in immediate danger, call 911 in the U.S. if you can do so safely. A domestic violence advocate can help you consider options without pressuring you to leave or confront someone.

If someone may monitor your phone or computer, use a safer device if possible. Private browsing and a quick-exit button cannot erase all traces. Changes to settings or deleted history may be noticed.

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Abuse is more than physical violence.

Threats, intimidation, sexual coercion, isolation, monitoring, and controlling money or access to help can also be forms of abuse. You deserve support even if there are no visible injuries.

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A plan that fits your situation.

A personalized safety plan can consider trusted contacts, safer places, children, pets, medication, and practical needs. What is safe for one person may not be safe for another.

You do not have to confront a partner or announce plans to get support.

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Support after an experience.

You can ask for support even if the relationship has ended. An advocate can help you explore local services, emotional support, shelter options, and referrals for legal assistance. Availability varies.

You choose what you are ready to share.

When alcohol or drugs are involved.

Substance use does not excuse abuse. Addressing drinking or drug use does not replace a safety plan. If you are afraid of a partner, seek individual support rather than relying on a joint conversation to resolve the situation.

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Reach a person, on your terms.

Who it helps: People experiencing relationship abuse, and people supporting them
Where: United States
When: 24 hours a day, seven days a week. There may be a wait to connect.
Cost: Free support from The Hotline; referred services may have their own costs.
Before you share: Consider device and phone-record privacy. Ask the advocate about confidentiality before sharing identifying details.

U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Text START to 88788, or visit TheHotline.org and choose chat with a live advocate. Consider device and phone-record privacy before contacting a service.

This page does not collect a safety plan or ask you to submit your story. This website is not monitored for emergencies. External services have their own privacy practices.

Support after sexual assault →

Sources: The National Domestic Violence Hotline and NNEDV Safety Net. Information checked October 14, 2026.